Creating a Calming Soundscape at the End of Life
Hearing is usually the final connection we have to the earthly world. I get asked a lot by loved ones “Can they still hear me?” Yes, absolutely! Please continue speaking to your loved one.
In life as well as in dying, sound has a huge impact on our emotions. Think of that one song that always makes you choke up, or the one that always makes you want to dance! Sound can bring back memories, bring comfort, and create an atmosphere during life’s most significant moments. Think about it, music is a big part of many of life's big moments! Birthdays, weddings, holidays, and on and on.
At the end of life, a carefully chosen soundscape can provide a sense of calm, joy, and connection, for both the person transitioning and their loved ones.
Whether through music, nature sounds, or our own words, creating a soothing auditory environment can help ease anxiety, reduce stress, and offer a sense of peace. Here are some tips to help thoughtfully curate a custom soundscape for the end-of-life journey.
The Power of Sound in the Dying Process
Hearing is often the last sense to fade as a person approaches death. Even when they are unresponsive, they may still perceive and be comforted by familiar voices and gentle sounds. Choosing sounds that promote relaxation can help create an environment that feels safe, loving, and familiar.
Sound can serve many purposes at the bedside:
Comfort: Soft music or nature sounds can soothe restlessness and anxiety.
Connection: Familiar voices, recorded messages, or favorite songs can provide a sense of presence and love.
Spiritual or Emotional Support: Prayers, meditations, or meaningful readings can offer peace and reassurance.
Choosing the Right Sounds
When creating a soundscape, consider the preferences of the dying person. Did they have a favorite musician? Did they find nature sounds relaxing? Were they comforted by poetry, scripture, or guided meditations? Or were they all about dropping sick beats? (Dying doesn’t have to be all Enya and ocean sounds!) Selecting sounds that resonate with them personally can make the experience even more meaningful.
1. Music for Comfort and Reflection
Music is one of the most powerful tools for setting a peaceful atmosphere. Consider:
Instrumental music – Gentle piano, harp, or acoustic guitar music can create a serene environment.
Soft classical or ambient music – Slow, flowing compositions help foster relaxation.
Favorite songs or meaningful melodies – If the person had songs they loved, playing them softly can bring comfort.
Chanting or hymns – Spiritual or meditative music in line with their own spiritual practices can offer a deep sense of peace.
I’ve read in my places to avoid loud or overly complex music, as it may be overstimulating. Soft, repetitive, and slow-paced music tends to be the most calming. This is true, but that’s not to say some softly played rock isn't out of place if that’s what the person loved most! (I had a full drum circle around a client once who looked more at peace than she had in days)
2. Nature Sounds for Serenity
For many, nature sounds create a feeling of tranquility. I admit I sleep best listening to Katydids. Other common nature sounds can include;
Rainfall or ocean waves – The rhythmic pattern of water can be deeply soothing.
Birdsong or forest sounds – Gentle nature sounds can bring a sense of being outdoors.
Breeze or rustling leaves – Light wind sounds can add to a peaceful atmosphere.
Many apps and streaming services offer nature sound playlists, making it easy to find the perfect backdrop. I personally have a Spotify playlist for sleeping filled with things like a crackling fire and crickets.
3. Spoken Word for Reassurance
Sometimes, the most comforting sounds come from the voices of loved ones.
Recorded messages – Family members can record short messages of love and reassurance.
Spiritual or poetic readings – Scripture, poetry, or meditations can offer a sense of meaning.
Personal conversations – Simply talking softly to the person, sharing memories, or expressing love can be incredibly meaningful.
Even if the person is no longer responsive they can hear you and speaking to them can bring a sense of connection and peace. (And help you too!) Just maybe don’t use this time for YOUR final confessions or grievances. You may have a burning need to get a last word in or state your piece but the time for that has passed. It won’t solve anything and it will only agitate them AND you.
Creating a Personalized Soundscape
When setting up a soundscape, some final things to consider:
Volume: Keep sounds at a soft, comfortable level. Even rock is ok, just don’t blare it.
Balance: Avoid overwhelming the space with too many sounds at once.
Flexibility: Pay attention to how the person responds—some may prefer silence at times. Look for non verbal cues. Hospice and death doulas can help you see and understand these better.
Every person’s end-of-life journey is unique. What brings comfort to one person may not work for another. Be open to adjusting the soundscape based on their needs and preferences.
Final Thoughts
At the end of life, the right sounds can create an atmosphere of peace, comfort, and love. Whether through music, nature sounds, or the simple presence of a familiar voice, sound has the power to ease the transition and provide solace for both the dying person and those who love them.
In these final moments, a perfect soundscape can be a small reminder that even in the quietest and most sacred of times, love is still being expressed, heard, and felt. On both sides.
